“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” ~Robert Frost
I just about cried when I came upon this one. It is so true. Sometimes, it may seem hard to believe it, but life will go on, no matter what happens or how things turn out. Right now, my life has become more than a little bit hectic and utterly chaotic, nothing like the simple, harmonious lifestyle I was accustomed for the previous few years, before all the craziness began. Lately, I have been faced with higher expectations and more responsibility than ever before, both at school and outside of school, and I have been faced with choices that have will require me to make sacrifices and to venture out of my comfort zone, big time. My life is teetering on the brink of change, and sometimes I feel that way, too: like I am teetering dangerously close to the edge of a cliff, about to be swallowed up by all the decisions and responsibility and change in my life right now that threaten to consume me.
I have never felt more uncertain. I have no idea what the future holds for me, or how my life will be affected because of the choices I make. I have not been happy lately. In fact, if I could describe how I’ve been feeling, it would be tired. Tired of school, of responsibility, of decisions, of everything.
It’s easy, I think, to become completely swept up in what’s happening in our lives on a day-to-day basis, and get really worked up over things, whether it’s major or something not-so-major that just seems life-impacting at the time. I’ll admit it; I’m a worrier. I freak out over little things, like, say, forgetting my homework, or the test I have coming up in a week that I don’t feel at ALL ready for (even though I am; this has happened to me on several occasions). I worry, and worry, and worry, and worry, and worry… Last year, I was staying up until eleven o’clock on an almost nightly basis, trying to get everything done. I’m a TOTAL perfectionist, and I couldn’t sleep knowing I had done any less than my very, very best. So I got everything done, but I was tired all the time, and I wasn’t happy. I was too stressed to be happy. There were times when I literally felt like the world was going to end if I didn’t get everything done, and perfectly, to the best of my ability.
It was then that my mom sat down with me and told me something. “Olivia,” she said, “it’s very good that you always strive to do your best, and it’s good that you work so hard, but sometimes you just have to be able to say ‘it’s good enough.'”
I thought about that, and it really changed the way I viewed my life. My daily life changed: I would come home from school, do as much as I could, and then if I still wasn’t finished at eleven o’clock at night, I would put the pencil down and say to myself, “Good enough for today.” I was a much happier person from then on, and even though I didn’t always get everything done, I didn’t feel like the world was actually going to come to an end. It helped me to realize that some days, it’s just impossible to be able to get everything done — there are times when you just have too much to do — and it helped me to see, most importantly of all, that life rolls on, no matter what is happening around you. There are times when you might feel so stressed and overwhelmed and tired that you just don’t think you can go on. But life goes on, and so will you. You WILL live to see another day.
Sometimes, I realized, you just have to let go of all control, and let time pass.
This quote, so simply and matter-of-factly stated, awakened an inner calm inside me, a voice of reason against the crazy chaos of everyday life — and the giddy joy that comes with relief and realization. Life goes on.
If there are any of you out there who feel the same way as I do about life right now, well, hold on, and know that life rolls along, no matter what happens. Stay strong…and try to R-E-L-A-X! (I’ll try to do the same.)